Hello I am new to this board and looking forward to sharing with people of similiar situations. I understand everyone has been through a lot and only wish the best . I have two children. I found out last year my husband finally came clean.
After gambling , he put us in debt 60 grand and was mialng credit card statements in a secret po box and I was oblivious this was even going on. We had just had our seceond child and I was involved keeping house and raising chidren. this was the last thing on my mind. How could someone lie like that. He faithfully goes to his meetings every monday.
However I attended a gam anona meeting and found when I told my story it was belittled by one of the members being as he lost his daughter two years ago.
I was not trying to have a compititon and everyones problems matter. So, I was uncomfortable attending there since. I am hoping that because we have two kids and it is diffcult to trust people, it is hard to get out of the house to attend anyway. I am hoping this forum can help me.
I appreicate any comments as I still experience anger and distrust and am repulsed that someone who loves you could do that to his family, I never betrayed him disease or no disease. that is where I am at in my head.
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Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sun, 2007-06-03 13:30.
Authored by: Annie on Tuesday September 06, 2005
11:19 AM EDT
I totally sympathise. I went out with mu beautiful boyfriend for nine months. We moved in together and three days later, after I lent him my credit card, and realised a lot of money had gone missing, he told me he had a gambling problem - pokie machines. Since then life has been a nightmare. I love him so much, but he never mentions his gambling unless I bring it up, it is his hidden secret. I have tried to look at why it bothers me (there are no financial problems), and basically it is the secrecy and the lying. I wish you the best, Annie x
Authored by: mapes on Saturday October 15, 2005
12:22 AM EDT
Annie,there are so many of us that can relate.How can our husbands that we love so much deceive and lie again and again I hear a reacurring word in most stories MY LIFE HAS BECOME A NIGHTMARE! Mine has.I've been married 5 years.My hu sband makes good money(1100)a week spends 80% on gambling I work full time so everything earned goes towards bills etc. I'm at the end of my rope.
Authored by: hopefullheloise on Monday October 17, 2005
04:28 PM EDT
I too am new to this game. I just found out. I want to find someone to talk with on line. I don't have anyone here to talk with, and talking with the gambler is probably not the best idea. Anyone interested?