We are all vulnerable


Hi All,

I have been ruminating over relaspes this morning. I read the posts of some of our folks who have had a slip and tried to get something from it. What I notice is how we all tend to get really confident as we build up days and weeks. Then, BOOM, a relaspe...out of the blue, after many weeks of being happy and getting right financially.

Now I've been clean 46 days, but I realize how fragile this happiness is and I want to protect it. My point is : Don't take your precious clean days, weeks, months or years for granted.

Lets do the math -- If I was losing $1,000 a month, I'll save $12,000 in a year. In ten years I will have saved $120,000. Now that is over 100K and happiness to boot...a worthy goal!

If you are digging a hole...STOP DIGGING!



Posted: 18 Jul 2006 01:44 pm Post subject:
Sometimes I become complacent when things go well. Then, like you said, BOOM... It has happened many times to me.

I want to make a commitment to this group that I WILL TRY MY BEST not to gamble again for the rest of my life. I hope to accomplish this by taking it one day at a time. Or guy puts it ODAAT.

I will visit this site a few times a week, or more if I get the urge to gamble.

I have read most of the articles on this site and they have given me new insight into my gambling problem.

I used to be a compulsive gambler, I'm not a compulsive gambler today, and I hope I will not be a compulsive gambler tomorrow.


Posted: 18 Jul 2006 10:11 pm Post subject:
Hey Bach -- that is a simple plan and simple plans tend to work better than complicated ones. I quit smoking by stopping. No patches, no classes..however, I know I could pick it up again with no problem. Keep your guard up.



Posted: 18 Jul 2006 10:24 pm Post subject:
Hello Scotty-- You are so right: Simple plans do work better than complicated ones. When I was a compulsive gambler, everything was so complicated. What am I going to tell this person? How will I get the money to cover that? Does this person know what I did last night? Do my friends know how much I've lost? And on and on and on.

Then there's the inner turmoil-- the guilt, shame, regret.

And yes, I will keep my guard up.

I promise this group and everyone who visits this site THAT I WILL TRY MY BEST each day not to gamble. I will do this my visiting this site a few times a week, or when I get the urge to gamble, and post or read the articles on it.


Posted: 19 Jul 2006 10:17 pm Post subject: re
Bach - that is so true. Things can be going great. You can be planning what to do with the extra money and glad that you found something else to do.

And then it only takes one bad idea acted upon to send you back to square one.

If it seems like a bad idea then it usually is.

Denise C

Posted: 23 Jul 2006 07:17 am Post subject:

Stopping gambling was one of the hardest things that I have ever done and I have had a few accomplishments in my life. This is a great forum when you are feeling a unbalanced but there is nothing like sitting with other people who have had those same struggles to help you through those unbalanced times. We can all stop gambling, but if we don't change the things that drew us to gambling my opinion is that we are going back to it. As I said, "my opinion". Gamblers anonymous has taught me a new life without gambling and how to deal with the things that come up. More than anything Gamblers Anonymous has been a tool box and those who show me how to use the tools and even help me use them when I feel I can't. You don't have to do this alone.

Denise C.
3 years 4 months and 14 days without a bet.


Posted: 24 Jul 2006 10:34 am Post subject:

You are AWESOME! I understand your point...use the available tools to beat this thing. Talking with Gamblers Anonymous members is great I am sure. I haven't used this method, but I wouldn't rule it out. I am approaching 2 months free of gambling, so I know I have a long way to go. I might just attend a Gamblers Anonymous meeting in the near future. Thanks!

on the road in Cincinnati.....