Checking in


Bach

Hello Everyone,

I'm checking in to say that I haven't gambled since April 11, 2006. I contribute a small part to this by staying away from people who do gamble. I'm also trying to follow a regular routine each day and keeping busy so gambling is in the backburner.

I've read the posts and I'm sorry to hear that Ann and Moe relapsed. There's a lesson to be learned from every mistake. I'm sure you'll both recover nicely and share with us your success stories in the future.

For those lurking, it does help to post and share your story with others. It's part of the recovery process.

Have a great weekend.

Ann

Posted: 04 Aug 2006 05:22 pm Post subject:
Congratulations Bach!

You're going on to being 4 months free of gambling soon. That must feel fantastic.

The one thing with me, I always go alone. Perhaps I need to get out amongst people.

Keep us posted to your progress.

Ann

sue

Posted: 08 Aug 2006 01:49 pm Post subject: Ditto
Yes, Bach,

Congratulations!

Sue

StaceyP

Posted: 08 Aug 2006 01:54 pm Post subject: Do you
Do you still get urges? And if you do what do you do to stop, we need to hear some good positive stuff....

sue

Posted: 09 Aug 2006 07:24 am Post subject: Urges
Hi Stacey,

I wanted to share with you that one of the best things I read about preventing relapses and controlling urges relates to understanding and identifying what triggers the urges. For example, I would always get an urge to go to the casino on Friday nights. It was my time to relax for the week, destress from work, etc., etc. Now I make sure I have plans to do something with someone who does not gamble every Friday night. Even if I have to call 5 people until I can find someone who is not busy, I will.

I've learned so much about preventing relapses and changing my lifestyle that has really helped me. I know, however, that I will always have to do this one day at a time, and never think I am "cured," because that's when it could creep up on me again.

What a struggle! Please let me know how you are doing.

Love,
Sue

Bach

Posted: 09 Aug 2006 07:40 am Post subject: Answers: Checking In
Ann: During my gambling days, I went alone most of the time. But there were many times I went with my gambling buddy. I no longer keep in contact with him with obvious reasons.

Gambling is a way to socialize for many. You're surrounded by people and entertaintment. You're made to feel like the queen/king. It's an illusion of control. I can gamble by myself or I can read a book by myself or do other things by myself. I'm happier not gambling.

Sue: Thank-you. One day, you'll be able to say you haven't gambled in 20 years if you work at it.

StaceyP: I haven't had the urge in awhile. But I also have a drug addiction problem and I relapsed while I wasn't gambling. In summary, I haven't gambled in 4 months and I've had a drug relapse in the last 7 months.

Moe: I don't make that much money, so I haven't piled up a huge nest egg....yet. But I have been able to pay my bills on time and I don't have to worry about telling my landlord and creditors why I'll be late with payments. I'm a bit ahead on my bills right now and it feels good, as opposed to feeling bad when gambling.

As for Gamblers Anonymous closed meetings, they're fine for some. But I find it as equally therapeutic writing in my journal or keeping notes. That way, my thoughts are always there and I can go over them when I get the urge to gamble.

I have memoirs of several relapses and like Moe said, it's like Groundhog Day, when I read them.

Have a good 24 hours.

moe11

Posted: 10 Aug 2006 12:52 am Post subject: re
Bach. Do you also attent Gamblers Anonymous? Self reflection, writting in journals. Good stuff.

I really have to beat this thing. Its caused a lot of hardship and I can't really afford to relapse right now.

Paying bills on time is like a small windfall. More that I can say right now.

Bach

Posted: 10 Aug 2006 12:03 pm Post subject: Gamblers Anonymous
Moe, at one point I attended Gamblers Anonymous for several months in a row. But I haven't done so in awhile. Gamblers Anonymous is a great tool and you should try it to see if it clicks. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Have a good week. I'll be back next week.

moe11

Posted: 10 Aug 2006 04:47 pm Post subject: re
Bach. Maybe that explains why so many members at Gamblers Anonymous are recent. Suppose after you have beaten it or gotten to the point where you don't think about gambling on a daily basis then why keep reliving the experience?

Other than to help the new commers. You have beaten it so far. Truly an inspiration.

Bach

Posted: 17 Aug 2006 01:27 am Post subject:
Hi Moe-- Denise C has over 3 years and she still comes here. Recovery is a lifelong process. The longest I went without gambling was over a year. But I got complacent and relapsed hard, turning a **controlled** session of gambling into a full binge. I lost over a year of savings, all the hard work went down the drain.

I don't think about gambling on a daily basis but I know from experience that it can creep up on me if I'm not vigilante about it.

sue

Posted: 17 Aug 2006 01:44 pm Post subject: a good statistic
Yes, I agree recovery is a life long process. I'm going to a 12-step program. Each week we work on 1 of the steps. The counselor told us those people who really work the steps and stay with the program have a 99.9% success rate of not gambling. I like that number!!!!

Love,
Sue

Bach

Posted: 17 Aug 2006 02:41 pm Post subject: Robin Williams was sober for 20 years
Robin Williams, the actor, was sober for 20 years. He recently checked into alcohol rehab.

It is a lifelong process--every minute, every hour, everyday.

moe11

Posted: 18 Aug 2006 12:44 am Post subject: re
Yes it does appear to be a lifelong process. Seems like if you can get through those 1st few months the rest gets a lot easier.

One thing I noticed that seperates us is the thought that in any given trip you can win your money back. When an alcololic relapsis, my Brother is one, its not the same thing. They are not trying for that 1 in a million chance to win the big progressive that will set their lives back in order.

Of course it does not work like that. The more you win the more you go. With all the odds stacked against you its going to end in disaster.

I wish I could get myself to understand this.