Why is this Disease different?


Ms.Unique
This disease can lead to spiritual death (without any obvious signs of an illness). I know that Cancer and HIV lead to a physical death(with signs) but, if we continue to gambling we will eventually die physically as well as spiritually. We are punished for not being the best husband/wife, mother/father and friend. I have to speak out because I am desperate to beat this thing called "Addiction". Everyone always speaking on having the support of their family and friends. But, I have lost the respect and love of my 15 year old because of the bad choices I have made in the last 10 years with my time and my finances. I can't take this bad habit no more. I hate loving something that makes me go against the right things that I should do. I told myself that I would make some changes but, the more I change there is one thing that remains the same... this "Addiction" really have a hold on me.
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Ms. Unique,

Compulsive gambling is a disease and I know I couldn't face this addiction on my own. I tried for 20 years but I kept fooling myself. Seven months ago I found Gamblers Anonymous and it is the best thing to happen to me. I know certain people do not like 12 step programs but if you can please try to find a meeting and give it 90 days. After 90 days if it isn't working then find something else. No one should face this addiction by themselves because it is too difficult. Your life will be saved once you admit you are powerless to gambling. Give up the power and you will find there is a better way to life. This way of life is made much better by not gambling.

I know it is so difficult to quit because I fooled myself for 20 years and I am certainly one who should have known better but I didn't. I let the gambling take over my life and now I am finally taking back my life by NOT gambling. Please find some help because you are not alone and there are some great resources out there.

Where do you live maybe there is a GA meeting nearby? You can do this and you will do this but you need help. I was in denial about my gambling problem until I found myself going to prison. You don't have to learn this way you can get help and take back your life. Please find a GA meeting and if there is not a meeting in your area there are some great groups on the internet but whatever you do DON'T gamble for anything this is the only way to recovery I know and yes, it does work but it is going to be difficult. You can do it and you will do it, may God bless you and your family and if there is anything I can do please let me know.

Paul

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Paulie D., Thank you...for listening and responding with such encouraging words? It is so powerful to have someone who understands the disease communicate with you. This disease is not accompanied by love/support and understanding from your friends and family such as...Cancer and HIV etc...I must admit I have tried GA twice and failed but, only by attending meetings once or twice after a gambling episode. Once I recovered from the hurt and pain of my single episode I stopped attending the meetings. But, I did not put any real work in making it a part of my life I must say. I have at least 3 different GA meetings to chose from...But, I always wanted someone to tell me what to do with the new alotted time that you will now have that you have stopped gambling. I was so lonely and unhappy that I had to resort back to gambling the only thing that got my interest and made me feel normal. "Insanity"- How can something that is self-destructing feel normal/good...My battle, My struggle. I don't have a husband to support me in overcoming this terrible disease, so I must fight it alone. Again thank you. I will try once more, one day at a time to stop this horrible disease from destroying my being here on earth.

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Ms. Unique,

You are so very welcome and please give Gamblers Anonymous a chance and yes, it is a lifetime committment but it will be well worth it. You should be able to find people who you relate with and they will be there for you in good times and bad. The decisions will ultimately will come from you fellow GA Members will offer suggestions to you on what to do with your time but it is up to what you do with these suggestions. I found it very important in my personal recovery to be involved in Gamblers Anonymous which is more than just going to meetings. I have met some wonderful people through the program which I call my friends. You will be amazed if you stay after the meeting and speak with other members or just offer to bring coffee to the meeting or help setting up the room; it has help my recovery immensely. There are so many other things to do rather than gambling; read a book, take a walk in a park, take up a new hobby, you are an intelligent woman and I know you will be able to find something to do other than gambling. I wish you the best and if you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask.

Paul

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There is a meeting that is held tonight at 7:00pm. But, I'm feeling a little embarassed to attend for the 3rd time with no success. They are nice people and if anybody understands they surely will. So, yes I will attempt recovery again, again, and again if I need to. In order to live a normal and healthy life, which I desire. I must stop gambling. Talk you later, Paul.

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