We have no one to blame but ourselves


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I’ve stopped blaming events and people for what happened in my life. Everything, good or bad, that has happened to me was the result of my doing. Mistakes I’ve made in the past were the result of my own decisions. I was led by people who didn’t have my best interest at heart. However, the final decisions were mine to make. I’ve made wrong decisions and have learned from my mistakes.

It has been one of the biggest steps in my life: To stop blaming people and events for my failures. I chose to gamble and have suffered for my decision. I only have myself to blame for my losses. I have accepted responsibility as part of my life.

I forgive myself and you should forgive yourself, too.

Honesty. Thursday August 05, 2004
02:19 AM EDT

i find it very hard to find someone who will go with me to meetings. and you'd think your friends would go. of course i started early and have been gambling for 3 years-at a young age-currently 15 and it is hard and embarrising going to meetings. what should i do?

Hiei-Suichi 

Saturday October 16, 2004
05:07 PM EDT
 

That is a young age to start gambling. But sometimes it's better to make mistakes when you're young. Try to find something to keep yourself busy with, school for example. If you feel frustrated and the thought of gambling enters your mind, stop and think what it has done to you in the past. Realize that gambling is a poor way to cope. It's a way of escaping from reality. See yourself as a person who is proactive and faces his problems directly. Everything starts in the mind. If you see yourself as a successful person, you will be a successful person.

You're young. Set goals for yourself. Get a degree. Take up a hobby. Volunteer for community service. Keep busy.

If you can't find anyone to go with you, write down your feelings. Use this forum or others like it. Or use a diary. Write down your feelings. It helps.

Someday you will realize that we have no one to blame but ourselves for everything that happens in our lives. We can blame our friends, our family members, parents, co-workers, neighbors, and the list can go on and on. But it's all up to us who we become in life. You'll be happier if you realize that truth sooner.

Don't let anyone bend or break you, more importantly don't bend or break yourself. Know what you want and work hard to get it. While you're working towards your goal, have fun in the process. You deserve it.

Best of luck to you.

Honesty